Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!

This piece of writing is done to extend awareness concerning sex, thrashing the myths and misconceptions a side.

Majority of us remain unaware of the crucial elements related to sex until we decide to Google it. It’s an unhidden fact of our culture that this topic pops only one night before the marriage of a girl. The mother embarrassingly(so like the bio teacher from school while teaching reproduction chapter) for the first time discuss it with her daughter making sure that she understands the complexity of it in just few lines uttered by her. In response to which the girl shyly nods her head signaling her mother that she has understood it well, even when she has several other questions juggling in mind.

Is it correct to entirely depend on your partner to increase your knowledge on the matter of sex? What if his knowledge is as restricted as yours? Most probably both of you would be liable to commit mistake which could be irreparable.  

Keeping in mind situations which we more likely to ignore or stay uninformed about, I’ve jotted down few points which would definitely be profitable to you and your partner and might boost up your sex life.

Tip # 1 'No penetration' does not mean that you are secure from being pregnant.

Yes! That’s true. Pregnancy can happen even when a partner ejaculates or pre-ejaculates near or on your vulva. Naked body contact around this region could lead to pregnancy.

Tip # 2 You can still get pregnant if you have sex during your menstrual cycle.

Shocking? Yes! If you have vaginal sex during your periods, you can get pregnant. Sperms have a life ranging from one day to one week, thus meaning that a sperm could fertilize an egg when you ovulate. It is a must to use a condom, as it is the proven way to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

Tip # 3 Washing the vagina after intercourse does not avoid pregnancy.

No! It wouldn’t work. Even if you wash your vagina with hot water, cold water, soap solution or shampoo solution, sperms are really speedy swimmers and can get to their set destination even before you blink your eye. Use safe birth control methods instead.

Tip # 4 Even if it's your first time, you can get pregnant.

You might have heard friends saying “it doesn’t happen at the first time”. Sorry to let down your friends but a girl can become pregnant anytime and every time she is having sex, irrespective of the fact that it is her first time or not. A girl is most fertile during her teenage years, thus it is a must for her to use reliable birth control.

Tip # 5 Not all women bleed when they have sex for the first time.

Men need to stop those suspicious glares towards their lady love as it is not necessary for a woman to bleed after her very first sexual intercourse. It is important to understand that women bleed only when they break their hymen for the very first time and not after that. And the hymen can be easily broken by any kind of rigorous physical activity such as cycling, running or swimming. So, it is not necessary for a virgin to bleed the very first time she has sexual intercourse.

Tip # 6 It is possible for a woman to get pregnant, even if the man pulls out.

The rhythm method, also known as the pull out method is the worst case scenario for birth control. Men are not always aware of when exactly the fluid is about to ooze out. It is said that one in every 5 couples, who follow this method as the only form of birth control, gets pregnant.  

Tip # 7 Erectile dysfunction is treatable.

Yes you heard it right. This is the biggest myth of all. ED is certainly treatable. Here are a few lifestyle tips you should keep in mind: Check your alcohol intake, stop smoking, follow a healthy exercise and dietary regimen and keep your diabetes under watch.

Tip # 8 Erectile dysfunction is linked to heart disease.

Though it’s saddening but in some cases it has been linked to heart disease. In fact, erectile dysfunction can be linked to cardiovascular diseases in whole. Studies have time and again shown that all men who suffer from ED should get checked for heart diseases.

Tip # 9 Sex reduces the risk of prostate cancer.

A study at the US National Cancer Institute showed how men who ejaculated through either sex or masturbation a minimum of five times a week were less likely to get prostate cancer.

Tip # 10 Not all cases of HIV lead to AIDS.

Even though there is no sure shot cure for HIV, there are many medications and dietary rules available by which you can suppress the virus. 

Published by Respect Women on their Website

My Mother, My Teacher

I was a little bird who was unaware of the realistic world, until her mother pushed her out of the nest.

Birds experience such scenarios very early in life whereas we human beings take several years to be put in such situations. Since our birth we are mollycoddled and loved to an extent that makes us a dainty doll. We live in the world of wonderland which is fabricated by the unfeasible stories of our parents.

In my case, my father is a splendid storyteller and all his stories were fables. I’ve known the stories of a crow, rat and tiger, sparrow, eagle and several other forest creatures. Whereas the only stories I remember of my mother was how my grandmother was once bitten by a venomous Scorpio, how my aunt was once fell from the balcony, and how she managed to top in all her classes.

When my father opted for unrealistic stories to send us (my brother and I) to sleep, my mother opted for a very realistic approach which made me closer to my father and I continued to be a daddy’s girl till I reached puberty. Puberty does make a lot of difference in a girl’s life and it did to mine too.

Fortunately or unfortunately I reached to puberty few years early to a normal girl’s age which shocked most of the elder ladies of the extended family. When I didn’t even know what has become wrong in me, dealing with those wicked glimpse of those elder ladies used to make me burst in tears and that when I  actually came much closer to my mother. Until then she was just a nanny to me, who used to cook for me, dress me in school uniform, drop me to and pick me from bus stop, assist me in completing my homework and some of the times bore me with pragmatic accidental tales of her life.

Like any other child I had a cheery life for which I now thank to my mother. She kept everything to herself and only showered affection, care and cosset to us. We never got to know, how she is butchering her desires just to endow us with entities of our needs.

When I grew up to an age when problems started reaching to me, my mother my teacher wordlessly taught me how to stay strong. With a calm and composed face of hers no one could ever imagine the struggles she encountered every day of her life. No teacher ever taught me anything beyond studies but my mother did and in a way that I also didn't realize that I've learnt a lesson today.

My heart has her beats,

My lips owns her smile,

She is not mere a mother

She is a teacher inside.

This article of mine was published by "Respect Women" with a bit alteration. 

Below is the link to that page.

 http://respectwomen.co.in/my-mother-my-first-teacher/