Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!

This piece of writing is done to extend awareness concerning sex, thrashing the myths and misconceptions a side.

Majority of us remain unaware of the crucial elements related to sex until we decide to Google it. It’s an unhidden fact of our culture that this topic pops only one night before the marriage of a girl. The mother embarrassingly(so like the bio teacher from school while teaching reproduction chapter) for the first time discuss it with her daughter making sure that she understands the complexity of it in just few lines uttered by her. In response to which the girl shyly nods her head signaling her mother that she has understood it well, even when she has several other questions juggling in mind.

Is it correct to entirely depend on your partner to increase your knowledge on the matter of sex? What if his knowledge is as restricted as yours? Most probably both of you would be liable to commit mistake which could be irreparable.  

Keeping in mind situations which we more likely to ignore or stay uninformed about, I’ve jotted down few points which would definitely be profitable to you and your partner and might boost up your sex life.

Tip # 1 'No penetration' does not mean that you are secure from being pregnant.

Yes! That’s true. Pregnancy can happen even when a partner ejaculates or pre-ejaculates near or on your vulva. Naked body contact around this region could lead to pregnancy.

Tip # 2 You can still get pregnant if you have sex during your menstrual cycle.

Shocking? Yes! If you have vaginal sex during your periods, you can get pregnant. Sperms have a life ranging from one day to one week, thus meaning that a sperm could fertilize an egg when you ovulate. It is a must to use a condom, as it is the proven way to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

Tip # 3 Washing the vagina after intercourse does not avoid pregnancy.

No! It wouldn’t work. Even if you wash your vagina with hot water, cold water, soap solution or shampoo solution, sperms are really speedy swimmers and can get to their set destination even before you blink your eye. Use safe birth control methods instead.

Tip # 4 Even if it's your first time, you can get pregnant.

You might have heard friends saying “it doesn’t happen at the first time”. Sorry to let down your friends but a girl can become pregnant anytime and every time she is having sex, irrespective of the fact that it is her first time or not. A girl is most fertile during her teenage years, thus it is a must for her to use reliable birth control.

Tip # 5 Not all women bleed when they have sex for the first time.

Men need to stop those suspicious glares towards their lady love as it is not necessary for a woman to bleed after her very first sexual intercourse. It is important to understand that women bleed only when they break their hymen for the very first time and not after that. And the hymen can be easily broken by any kind of rigorous physical activity such as cycling, running or swimming. So, it is not necessary for a virgin to bleed the very first time she has sexual intercourse.

Tip # 6 It is possible for a woman to get pregnant, even if the man pulls out.

The rhythm method, also known as the pull out method is the worst case scenario for birth control. Men are not always aware of when exactly the fluid is about to ooze out. It is said that one in every 5 couples, who follow this method as the only form of birth control, gets pregnant.  

Tip # 7 Erectile dysfunction is treatable.

Yes you heard it right. This is the biggest myth of all. ED is certainly treatable. Here are a few lifestyle tips you should keep in mind: Check your alcohol intake, stop smoking, follow a healthy exercise and dietary regimen and keep your diabetes under watch.

Tip # 8 Erectile dysfunction is linked to heart disease.

Though it’s saddening but in some cases it has been linked to heart disease. In fact, erectile dysfunction can be linked to cardiovascular diseases in whole. Studies have time and again shown that all men who suffer from ED should get checked for heart diseases.

Tip # 9 Sex reduces the risk of prostate cancer.

A study at the US National Cancer Institute showed how men who ejaculated through either sex or masturbation a minimum of five times a week were less likely to get prostate cancer.

Tip # 10 Not all cases of HIV lead to AIDS.

Even though there is no sure shot cure for HIV, there are many medications and dietary rules available by which you can suppress the virus. 

Published by Respect Women on their Website

My Mother, My Teacher

I was a little bird who was unaware of the realistic world, until her mother pushed her out of the nest.

Birds experience such scenarios very early in life whereas we human beings take several years to be put in such situations. Since our birth we are mollycoddled and loved to an extent that makes us a dainty doll. We live in the world of wonderland which is fabricated by the unfeasible stories of our parents.

In my case, my father is a splendid storyteller and all his stories were fables. I’ve known the stories of a crow, rat and tiger, sparrow, eagle and several other forest creatures. Whereas the only stories I remember of my mother was how my grandmother was once bitten by a venomous Scorpio, how my aunt was once fell from the balcony, and how she managed to top in all her classes.

When my father opted for unrealistic stories to send us (my brother and I) to sleep, my mother opted for a very realistic approach which made me closer to my father and I continued to be a daddy’s girl till I reached puberty. Puberty does make a lot of difference in a girl’s life and it did to mine too.

Fortunately or unfortunately I reached to puberty few years early to a normal girl’s age which shocked most of the elder ladies of the extended family. When I didn’t even know what has become wrong in me, dealing with those wicked glimpse of those elder ladies used to make me burst in tears and that when I  actually came much closer to my mother. Until then she was just a nanny to me, who used to cook for me, dress me in school uniform, drop me to and pick me from bus stop, assist me in completing my homework and some of the times bore me with pragmatic accidental tales of her life.

Like any other child I had a cheery life for which I now thank to my mother. She kept everything to herself and only showered affection, care and cosset to us. We never got to know, how she is butchering her desires just to endow us with entities of our needs.

When I grew up to an age when problems started reaching to me, my mother my teacher wordlessly taught me how to stay strong. With a calm and composed face of hers no one could ever imagine the struggles she encountered every day of her life. No teacher ever taught me anything beyond studies but my mother did and in a way that I also didn't realize that I've learnt a lesson today.

My heart has her beats,

My lips owns her smile,

She is not mere a mother

She is a teacher inside.

This article of mine was published by "Respect Women" with a bit alteration. 

Below is the link to that page.

 http://respectwomen.co.in/my-mother-my-first-teacher/

No New Year Resolutions

A new year is approaching which will comprise 365 days, the days about which I don’t wish to think in anyway. Being a person with an imaginative mind makes life filled with disappointments as you always imagine great things to happen but eventually land into bitter reality leaving you disappointed.

So my resolution of 2014 would be no resolutions from now on, No further troubling my imaginative mind by structuring fairy tale scenes which never tends to turn in reality.

I plan to give my imaginative mind some rest at least for few initial months of the year. Oh no! I can’t do that as I've my finals in April. Shit! Why does it happen to me every time? My tiny imaginative mind can’t even expect any vacation. See! That’s how life is, full of troublesome. That’s why I say “always expect the unexpected”. But how many of us follow this inspirational quote in our life? Not many of us which includes me too.

So I would welcome 2014 with a blank notebook of 365 pages. With each passing day a page of that notebook will get filled by itself. All I expect is love from my loved ones, outings with my friends and visits of my close relatives as it gives me strength and my imaginative mind positive thoughts.

PR Internship Experience

Eventually done with my Internship period *Sigh*

For this opportunity, I thank:

Mr. Paramjit Singh Sahai, who is the Managing Director of the company and my job mentor. He had the kindness to accept me in his company and guide me throughout my internship with advice, feedbacks and suggestions, despite his busy schedule.

I also appreciate the cooperative nature of all the employees of the company and thank them for all the jovial moments I shared with them.

Though it was for mere a month, it taught me crucial lessons of corporate life. I was always pushed to perform better and the fruitful result is evident. I feel more confident, outward and what Aakanksha says "ladki assertive hogayi hai".

On the first day of internship I met Aakanksha Rawat, former PR executive of EPA Infrastructure and we developed an instant bond. We knew that we have to work together as a team so we maintained mutual understanding and respect for each other's ideas and suggestions. 

I'm thankful to EPA for a friend like Aakanksha. At the first sight I never thought we would hook up so well because two young beautiful girls working together blissfully? You don't see that often.

Also, I got the opportunities to implement my ideas for branding and promotion of the company which was a bit stressful phase but nevertheless thrilling. 

I hope this practical experience with theoretical learning helps me to be an exceptional PR professional.     

Hopelessness

Behind her glittering eyes lies the sorrow.

Behind her piercing laugh lies the bawl.

Behind her silence lies the agony.

She tries hard to articulate,

She tries hard to surmount,

She tries hard to be sturdy,

But her life is desolate.

But her life is detrimental.

But her life is hollow.

Dilemma of the Soul

The rays of hope are declining, they are vanishing under the darkness of reality, the reality which is bitterest. I can see nothing, I’m aloof, I’m terrified, I’m panicking, I’m lost. I’m screaming from inside just to pretend calm on face. I feel betrayed but by whom? From the Almighty? What is his role to play in my grief? Did he plan to slaughter me in petty pieces so that no one could recognize my existence? Why was I blind to see that I’m moving into a trap webbed by him? Now I’m tangled. More I push to unleash myself from this trap, it repels me harder. Have I lost it forever? Is this the end? Was I put on earth for mere a show time? If yes, then I’m glad that there wouldn’t be any scorching heat making me sweat a river or trembling winter turning me into a snowman. If no, then I’ll play a completely different person, I’ll play an extremist.

I’ll fight from the world. I’ll fight from the creator. I probably lose this battle but I’ll fight till I’m alive. I’ll make my presence prominent in this world. I wouldn’t stay under the shadow of omission hence. Let this world witness the emergence of a strongest soul who wouldn’t fall on the knees to keep the world pleased. She’ll play arrogant and ruthless because it’s time to turn the favours back. I wouldn’t play fairly because this world never did. I’ll trap them in the web they trapped me in. I’ll make them purview the petrifying side of me. I wouldn’t spare them so easily as now it’s time for the world to taste its own medicine.

Can I be so cruel? Can I act so devilish? Can I be so selfish? Will it be easy for me to play a culprit rather than a victim? Will I be able to murder the human in me? Is it possible to accomplish the task I’ve planned? Is this the only way out?

NO! I can’t do this. May be I’m feeble or maybe I’m too sturdy? Whatever it is, but after pouring out my feelings I feel lightened. I guess this is the finest and most effective way to battle the devil in you. It’s not an easy job to always opt for the righteous path but one need to remember that only thorny roads lead to the destination of accomplishment, which could be in the form of inner peace and satisfaction from life and these are the only things which we require to be euphoric.

There is a lot

There is a lot to love you

There is a lot to hate me

There is a lot to torment you

There is a lot to euphoric  me.

There is a lot to cherish in you

There is a lot to condemn in me

There is a lot to forgive in you

There is a lot to rebuke in me.

There is a lot I need to avoid

There is a lot you need to consider

There is a lot I need to halt

There is a lot you need to commence.

There is a lot  I wish to tell

There is a lot you wish to hear

There is a lot I wish you to look out

There is a lot You wish me to overlook.